It's A Man's Instinct To Be Chivalrous To A Dainty Woman: Gender Roles, Who's Fault Is It?

Women want classic chivalry. Of course. They want independence, equality, and self-control, of course. But sometimes the two don't come hand in hand. Do women know what men consider to be "chivalry"?
Like most of these topics, this won't be just about how men don't treat women equally. This whole topic involves many, many other things, especially things that women do to maximize the "perfect woman" image. Yes, it's also women's fault. [Keep in mind, I'm not choosing any sides, I'm just reporting as I see it.]

Part I: A Woman's Image

Women wear makeup. Frilly dresses. Do their nails. Shave their legs, armpits, wax every other hair on their body. Get disgusted by the things that men do when they're with their friends, like burping, or the things they talk about.
Many of these things are seen by men as a sign of weakness, or a fault, as to why they should be treated like they're something fragile, delicate. Like the dresses, and the nails. I'm not sure about the makeup, because some men see this as a doll-like quality, but others don't.
Because they look so delicate and dainty, something in a man's mind says, "Let me get those bags for her." Or "Let me open the door for her." Or even something like, "No, you can't help me with this, this is a man's job." It's a man's instinct to treat a woman like she's too dainty for something, especially when she looks the part.
Women try so hard to look perfect, and then get angry when a man treats her what he would call, being a gentleman. But men and women think chivalry are different things.
My boyfriend thinks chivalry is not letting me hold any bags and not letting me walk on the outside of the sidewalk. It makes me mad sometimes, but it's just instinct for some guys. It's not instinct for women to spend hours on their appearance, or sacrificing needs, i.e. being able to wipe your ass, just for pretty, long, perfect acrylic nails, or any other thing like that. Women need to understand that they can't whine about equality while they're making themselves up to be porcelain dolls, for people on the street to admire, for their boyfriends to proudly take their arm.

Part II: A Man's Perspective

Like I've stated before, it's a man's instinct to be chivalrous. The point is, women and men obviously think differently, and they think different of chivalry.
With women, chivalry is, you know, the basic stuff, like holding open doors, letting her have the seat on the bus or train, paying for her, protecting her from harm, etc.
With men, however, chivalry is basically a gender role. Women are "not allowed" to do some things because they're "a mans job". For example, doing the mechanical work, or insisting on holding her bags because they're, apparently, too heavy for a woman. Men would say it's just common courtesy. Women would say it's sexism, the idea that women are too dainty and delicate to do certain things.

Part III: Society's Teachings

What would you say if you saw a man with hairy legs, hairy armpits, facial hair, and arm hair? Nothing, that's just natural.
What if you saw a woman, with hairy legs? Hairy armpits? Bushy eyebrows? You'd probably be disgusted, regardless of whether you're a man or a woman.
This somehow means that hair is a man thing. [Except on your head, of course.] If I asked why it's a man thing, you'd say, because it looks disgusting on a woman.
Why? What makes hair so manly? Do you think that before, like when everyone lived in huts, that people cared about things like armpit hair on a woman? Why is body hair considered a "man thing"?
If you can't come up with an answer to that, then you can probably see how easy it is for the media to convince people of certain things, especially when it comes to gender roles.
Society is, basically, the reason why men think women are inferior to them, or weaker, more delicate and fragile. Which is why men treat women the way they do.

Part IV: So Who's Fault Is It?

It's everyone's fault!!!




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